It all started 18 years ago. We were kids. We didn’t know what we wanted in life or really who we were. All we knew was, ‘hey, I really like you.’ We were never on again off again-it was a solid relationship for 4 years. We did however, take a 2 year hiatus after high school but it was intentional on both of our ends. We needed to find out who we were as individuals instead of in each other. We were scared at what the future held but knew we needed to cling to The One who really mattered. For two years we had little communication and never dated anyone else. At the end of those two years we began communicating again and realized we had both changed so much (for the better). So our relationship started over. From scratch. We were still friends but this time without intentions. Over time our friendship and our feelings grew until it turned into a love we couldn’t deny.
Without me knowing he took my parents out one night and asked their permission to date me. He wanted to do this right-from the beginning. A year later we were engaged and just 5 months after that married. We were MARRIED! What a long road road it was to get where we were but so worth it.
It was 10 years ago today that we said, ‘I do.’ And I have to be honest and say that all of my hopes and dreams about marriage have been totally destroyed. You see, I actually never hoped or imagined that marriage could be this amazing or fun. I never thought I could love him more than the day I married him. I never thought we’d be even better best friends now than we had always been. It’s not that we haven’t faced trials and hardships. We have. And I completely understand and have been faced with the opportunity to turn my heart cold when I have been hurt or felt unheard. You see, we made vows to each other 10 years ago and we both intended to keep them. We promised each other to never let our love go cold and to stay committed for better or worse. And believe me-we have seen better and we have seen worse. And we have had to make some very conscious decisions to keep our love on and not turn it off. And it was at the end of those moments-those ‘I don’t know if we’ll make it through this but I’m not giving up’ moments that our marriage became stronger.
You see, marriage isn’t always easy. Especially when you add three kids in the mix. We have to work really hard to remember what is important and our #1 goal is to put each other first. When our marriage is strong and happy then our whole family is strong and happy. We’re a team. We still date. We walk away before we say something we’ll regret. We
never go to bed angry-let me take that back because let’s face it…sometimes there isn’t enough time in the day to resolve our issues and they have to wait until tomorrow or the next day…but we make a decision to keep our love on in the midst of our trials. We don’t do everything right and sometimes it takes a while forever to get on the same page but somehow we find a way to get there.
Today marks a milestone. And we wanted to take some time to celebrate us. We wanted to remember what it was like to have fun together so earlier this year we went to Disneyland. Just the two of us. And it was epic! Just a few days ago he & I got in front of the camera. And guys let me tell you that I’m so glad we did! This man has given me the best 10 years of my life and I can’t wait to see what the next 10 brings. He is patient, he is kind, he loves me right where I’m at, he has fought for me and protected me and now he does the same for our children. He is a man of great character and integrity and I am honored and truly blessed to be his Mrs. If I had to do it all over again I would still choose him without a second thought. He is my best of everything and there is no one else on this earth that I would want to do life with.
Check out these AMAZING photos taken by Candice of Ivy & Tweed. Seriously they’re rediculously good! She captured what I had pictured in my head for a long time! And I love everything about them!